I can assure you that your grdrnpaaents would welcome a visit from you with open arms. I have talked to them a couple of times and even talked for an hour when I found out about mom's cirrhosis. They pretty much act like nothing has happened and no time has gone by. I miss my parents very much and hate the situation, but it is what it is. I don't believe they ever imagined that you three would be affected by what happened. I'm sure they miss you all very much also. They have not changed in the slightest except grandpa is missing some teeth now. The only problem I have at this point is that I don't know how they feel about Molly. I cannot take her around them because I don't know how they would react to her. If they still blame her then I don't feel my family' can participate in birthdays, holidays etc because I won't make Molly feel bad about being left out. I have however continued to send birthday cards, christmas cards, called mom on her birthday and called her about a couple things that have happened. I want very much for things to go back the way they were but unfortunately an individual sort of' relationship with them is about all I can have until they accept that Molly is part of me now. I really wish I knew how they felt about her at this point. You and your sisters can very easily resume your relationships with them, and I do wish that you would. I was thinking that the birth of Sandra's baby might mend a few things and be a good excuse to go over with at least some of you. Mom is getting older now, and I don't know yet how severe the cirrhosis is. She is having more tests the end of the month and promised to keep me informed. I'm sure that my brothers will not be a lot of help to them if she does get really sick and I know I will be right there for her, Molly or not. She is my mom and I love her regardless. I don't harbor anger any more, just disappointment hurt feelings. I think you would feel better if you saw her, or even just called her on her birthday. Things may never be the same but resuming your relationship with them will not be as difficult as you may think. They love you and always did, I don't think they really imagined that you guys would stick with me the way you did and I believe they are sorry for that and just don't know how to fix it.

by Youssef 08:39:00 PM 2012.10.03