Replies :)1. Yeah, I thought about the whole HarpER NiedER thing. But I didn't pick my last name, and to me it's not a good enugoh reason to throw Harper away :)2. Finn could be by itself or could be short for Finnian. Finn Nieder kind of sounds like one word if you say it too fast.3. Tessa is not my cup of tea.4. To me, Carson is a girl's name more than a boy's name.5. Unfortunately, I can not control for the stupidity of other people (like the whole Anita thing). If I could, I would change the world :) (Anita? people can be really dumb)

by Veronica 11:44:16 PM 2013.06.27

AK-First, I am happy for you, that you never experienced any sort of neaigtve thoughts about having a child with special needs.Second, my story is not meant to depict "anger, resentment and bitterness", but rather anger, resentment, and sadness. Deep sadness.Third, while your advice of "get over it and help your child" might seem like helpful (really?) to you, it would be like yelling at someone who is crying to stop crying and move on. What I'm trying to do with this piece is say "It's ok to cry, and most of us spent some serious time crying in the beginning. But now, look----we're happy. You'll get here, too."Also, I won't speak for anyone else . . . but, for me, most of my crying was done laying in bed at night. Or at naptime. No one besides me knew, and Maya certainly wasn't neglected in any way. So to hear "get over it and take care of your child" is doubly infuriating, because my child was (and is) well taken care of, and spoiled, and doted on, and loved.Fourth, "your story would make someone just accept their anger and sit to wait for something to get them out"--really? I don't think so. I think it might let them accept their feelings, give them permission to grieve, and give them hope for the future---seeing as how once upon a time I felt this badly, and now I'm pretty happy.And finally, "I think sometimes people in our situations are so busy worrying about themselves and their shock, that they forget what this child would feel like if it knew that it's parents regretted having it." Instead of letting the bubbling rage take over here and unleashing a tirade of unpleasantries, I'll just say that this is a very insulting thing to say----and that no one on this page has mentioned regretting their child.

by Yelinda 06:35:53 AM 2013.06.30