it's a process. i think it's iarpotmnt to take time and re-evaulate you and your place, your wants, your need and it's great that you didn't want to jump into a relationship when it wasn't right for you. a relationship is for two people, you're both involved, its a give and take.it takes a while, be single and enjoy being single. I think that's always better than getting into something when you're not feeling it. I had a similar thing. I worked on getting over bitter feelings, getting over remembering just the good times. I thought about why it didn't work and realized that people break up for reasons and its those reasons that it doesn't and usually probably won't work out for in the future. you have to work through your feelings. I think its great that you go on dates, keep doing that, but don't let it get to relationship if you're not ready. one thing I found out was I didn't even really know what type of guy I liked, I needed to meet new guys and get to know them and see them and trust them, everyone is a little differentI could have had relationships too, but I did the same thing you did, I was true to myself and didn't want to play with feelings. I totally admire that about you. I think you just have to let yourself work through your feelings and take the time you need. no rush in life, really. and I think you made a good call. she obviously wasn't feeling it if she jumped to the next guy real quick, I think its healthy to have time to get your feelings together, work and grow on yourself, meet some new people and move on, but its a process. the quickness with which she moved makes me wonder if she's just cold or had him at hand while having you too.I hope you can find someone to love you just as much as you would love her! but until then, honestly!, no rush, let yourself grow and heal. maybe just look for friends only until you can get to that place where you think a relationship and intertwining your life with another sounds like something you want. meanwhile, I always say, work on your career and life goals and let things just happen. You'll be working towards success and love just happens when you're ready, least I like think so, keep everyone moving forward.

by Naomi 12:21:15 AM 2013.01.28